Have you ever been on the receiving end of a dear John? If you haven’t then you are extremely lucky.
For those of you who do not know what a dear John is, it’s when you are in a relationship and the other person decides they don’t want to be with you anymore. It used to be, when a lady would write a letter telling their partner they no long want to be with them and that they have found someone else.
It’s extremely painful to be on the receiving end as you normally don’t realise they are coming, as far as your concerned your both happily singing from the same hymn sheet. In today’s society it seems that more and more people receive their dear Johns by text and even email no matter what age group you’re in.
Whats that all about? It seems that respect and human decency alludes people of today.
I mean if your partner was good enough at the beginning of the relationship with all the canoodling and bedtime adventures, surly they deserve to be treated with some common decency with a face to face breakup? It seems not!
People of today tend to run and hide from their problems and use the Ostrich effect (bury their head in the sand) or in the case of a dear John, get rid of their partner by the quickest and easiest means possible. “A text message”
Why is this? It’s cruel, hurtful and extremely disrespectful but so many people act this way today.
Everybody is out for themselves today and time seems to be of the essence. As soon as something goes wrong, it’s too much of an effort to work at it or even just to talk. Peoples actions are, I have to get rid of them now! I will send them a dear John by text!
If you are wondering who’s the main culprit in all this, the answer is, both male and females now act in this way.
One thing to remember when and if you ever receive a dear John is that the person sending it has no feelings left, in their mind they are done, finish and have moved on. Yes that quickly. Don’t go searching Face Book for their latest news or go to their favourite hang outs or be a people stalker, not cool people!
Your life is short and very precious, tell yourself, now its about me, I get to have many adventures and have fun finding someone as great as I am!
Yes it hurts and yes at the time you may feel as if your world will end but with every minute, hour, day and week, your life will move on and eventually without realising, with a smile on your face and a bounce in your step.
Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to finish, its about learning to dance in the rain!
Just keep smiling people.